2022.01.27 02:55 ifearbears Help please, can someone tell me how a normal relationship works?
This is going to be the most embarrassing thing I’ve asked on here.
I’m 20F. I’ve had 6 boyfriends since age 12, I only really count 3 of them as relationships. I’m a virgin, the only sexual contact I’ve had was a boyfriend touching my boobs over my shirt, and being fingered by a guy at college. I’d say I’m well versed in kissing/making out though.
Basically, I’ve never “connected” to someone in a relationship. I always feel like I have to be mature, professional even around people before I can let them know the real me. So my relationships have always felt “formal”, in a way. The first serious one, I didn’t know how to talk to him. He broke up with me because after 4 months, he felt like he still didn’t know me. The second was abusive, and I broke up with him. The third I broke up with because it was going on 10 months, and I wasn’t at all in love.
I don’t know how relationships work. Tons of people my age I know have been in 3 year relationships, where their partner knows their family and they spend a ton of time together. In my family, I was raised strictly. (And Christian, although I’m no longer practicing.) If I had a boyfriend over, we got no privacy. We literally were not allowed in my room, or to be home alone, and if we wanted to watch a movie we did it in the living room with the rest of my family. I felt like I couldn’t talk freely with my family there, and therefore couldn’t get to actually know them.
I also was not allowed to spend the night at a partner’s house, unless we were sleeping in different rooms and their parents were there. That only happened with one partner, the abusive one. My parents only allowed that because he was a Christian. (I was 16.)
I’m away for college now, and the only thing I rely on my parents for is transportation when I’m visiting home. (I borrow their car, can’t afford my own yet.) We live a half hour away from the closest city so if I want to go anywhere, I need the car. They allow its use, for work and other things as long as they know where I’m going. I’m hoping to buy my own next summer, money willing.
Basically what I’m asking is what does a normal relationship for someone my age look like? How much time do you spend together, how many days a week? How soon do you have sex, and how do you bring it up? Do you mostly stay at one persons house or switch between them? How often do you text vs calling/FaceTime? When do you send nudes?
I know the basics, but I can’t seem to get a relationship to progress past the initial infatuation stage. I want to have sex, but I don’t know how to bring it up. I feel confined by my living arrangements when I’m at home, because I’m stuck in the middle of nowhere unless my parents allow use of the car, which they wouldn’t if I wanted to stay overnight at a partner’s house. I don’t know how to make myself comfortable enough to actually be myself around partners. I just feel like I’m horrible at relationships, and it’s the main thing in my life that I’m upset about. All I’ve ever wanted was to find love, and I can’t seem to do it right.
I’ve been talking to a guy I’ve known for awhile now, and we both like each other. I’ve never felt this way about anyone else in my life. I’m comfortable around him in person and in text, and I’m completely terrified that if we date I’ll ruin it by crawling back into my shell and being “innocent” like I did the last relationship.
Literally any advice at all or clarity about what a normal 20 year old’s relationship usually looks like would be GREATLY appreciated, please.
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2022.01.27 02:55 betabot742 Sadge
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2022.01.27 02:55 sixgodstebs 4-5IV Jolly Nature Absol with egg moves Sucker Punch, Megahorn, Play Rough some with HA (Justified)
Have about a box and a half of Breedjects to giveaway.
I’ll be in room 4455-6691 IGN: Esteban Character: Rich Boy I’ll be to the left of the entrance.
Can’t guarantee that they have HA, but I got more of them than I expected.
Any Roseli or Yache berries would be great in return.
Other breedjects with egg moves are greatly appreciated <3
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2022.01.27 02:55 LingZxJC Anyone that lost their hair due to covid vaccine, how’s your hair now?
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2022.01.27 02:55 Desperate-Muscle-311 [help] I need help identifying this sculpture please!
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2022.01.27 02:55 radar_cat Are wojaks nfts now
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2022.01.27 02:55 threatlvl0 Tips on how to sleep next to your partner.
My partner screams at the top of his lungs obscenities, kicks, screeches, and rolls all night long.
I sleep silently on my side.
It’s getting to the point where I’m sleep deprived because he either screams in my ear inadvertently or screams incoherently in his sleep and kicks me/ thrashes…When he’s not doing this he snores extraordinary loud.
I intend to marry this man but what that fuck.
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2022.01.27 02:55 Soggy_Burrito2769 Vape battery fell out of disposable
2022.01.27 02:55 BareRN Annual education incomplete= no raise at all?
I am curious about something. So we all know we have education to complete annually for whatever specialty we work in via CMS guidelines, but in many specialties feels like more inundation with facility policy education along with CMS. Also, CEUs, BLS, ACLS, PALS... name your certs.
Here is my question that feels like I've been in this too long and adds to how much things have changed that doesn't sit right with me; and I will explain why if you have the energy to follow along. (Spoiler alert, may be a TLDR) So please tell me if my logic is wrong or validate if I am totally being gaslighted because this is the upside down. 26 years in nursing and I feel like my brain is broken and the decline in mental health has been more accelerated over the last 2.5 years.
Most places I have worked require annual education to be completed by 80%-90% of staff to receive accreditation. I am not discounting the education is important and part of the job thus part of the performance being measured. Many facilities have this annual education more efficiently than others, especially for those who could show on a test and in practice competency with their eyes closed. In general, if your annual education for your company/CMS (not counting CEUs for licensure/recerts) is not completed, you may get a ding on your annual raise, but it is not completely withheld. The completion of education is important for many reasons, but it is not the whole of the performance review.
I'm hearing more and more of nurses being not only bogged down by the short staffing, nurse to patient ratios, being so completely exhausted by the job to barely function in regular life much less completing all the extra education that comes with maintaining licensure on top of CMS on top of individual employers on top bls, acls, PALs, etc, on top of all the extra documentation on each patient q shift required to cover said employer for the facility to recieve reimbursement regardless of patient ratios thus taking nurses away from bedside and increasing stress and anxiety levels for both patients and nurses that is an endless cycle of shoot me now....and that was before covid. Now...it is even worse.
So, I am hearing that despite exemplary performance reviews (from facility management, providers, pt feedback, etc, nurses' entire performance raises are being withheld for lack of completion of "education." Even nurses performing duties that their "competencies" on paper haven't been completed but said employer has no problem with tasking them with said duties on the floor. But, aforementioned competency on paper has negated even a partial or prorated raise to reflect that.
We have always done more with less. And less and less. And more responsibility. I don't know very many nurses in my region who have only 1 job, which means the "education" requirements are doubled and tripled with overlapping redundant content. But they are competent on the job, show up, even when they have every reason not to in the current climate. And frankly. Many of us collectively either A) aren't and have vited for fuck it because there is so much abuse and exploitation of the person and field systemically or b) hello travel!
So is this a new norm adding insult to injury that an entire performance raise is withheld annually, even though on average these raises don't even keep up with cost of living, because of overwhelming, redundant bureaucracy?
Clearly, it should probably impact the review and raise if not completed, because it is part of the performance...but should it define the quality of nurse you are in its entirity despite clear competence at bedside and accolades from team members, providers and patients?
I'm feeling a little crazy pants here and would love feedback and perspective here. (Keeping in mind many live in states not unionized) is this seriously a thing?
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2022.01.27 02:55 phonaut What do you make of this?
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2022.01.27 02:55 inretrospect15 Small law firms vs big ones.
I’ve always worked for small law firms but I’ve wondered if there are more benefits to working for a large firm. Here I feel like the attorneys actually care about me as a person and appreciate my work. I have billing requirements but I’m not going to get fired or reprimanded if I don’t meet my goals. It’s annoying to have to cover for others when they’re not in but I still like the chill environment. What are the benefits of working at a large firm? For those who have worked at both, what do you prefer?
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2022.01.27 02:55 grilled_asparagus456 I doodled the Salival Man
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2022.01.27 02:55 4Rr0w__ Need help logging in my account.
I deactivated my Instagram yesterday for some personal reasons. Today when I tried to login they asked me authentication codes as I enabled 2 factor. Now I put the codes but it said the codes were wrong. Then I tried contacting Facebook through their request submission. They asked for a picture of me with a code and I sent them instantly.but there is no reply from them anymore. How can I get my account back as I don't have any backup codes. My account is almost 8 years old with alot of pictures which are only available in that account. Cant loose all of those memories:(
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2022.01.27 02:55 RandomXReddittor007 ITAP a night sky from my flat's balcony(it doesn't have a night mode)
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2022.01.27 02:55 Flat-Replacement-575 Lexapro and Alcohol
Hey everyone, just asking a general question. I just got on Lexapro (10mg) about 20 days ago and have been feeling pretty more upbeat and I’d even say slightly more enthusiastic in activities, like I used to be. I have been drinking alcohol pretty frequently (getting drunk 1-2 times a week, drinking casually 3-4 days) and I smoke weed almost everyday. I know that the medicine doesn’t work as well when competing with other substances, but I have never experienced worse, only better, despite my negative actions. Thoughts?
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2022.01.27 02:55 cardoftheboard image location
I am wanting to use the image of the btd6 mouse pointer (monkey hand). I cannot find where the files are stored. does anyone know where images are stored?
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2022.01.27 02:55 Shinobipizza Playing Three Houses for the first time. Bernadetta told me her backstory.
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2022.01.27 02:55 Flimsy-Ad9615 Anything on Stephanie
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2022.01.27 02:55 cantcodeme Enkore - Dhalta Chaand
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2022.01.27 02:55 ThickBoyJellyRolls They should add minecraft to oculus
The oculus quest 2 is basically a glorified Android phone. I know you could just play minecraft vr using a Pc. But id like to play Minecraft bedrock in vr. Play with phone, xbox one, ps4, and pc users. And maybe play with other quest 2 and quest 1 players.
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2022.01.27 02:55 prizeus ELI5: Why are bank transactions closed during weekends. Isn't onlinebanking only computers?